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Teen Dating Violence and Red Flags

Expect Respect: Respect Yourself

Expect Respect is a program offered through SAFE in Austin, Tx.. The purpose of the program is to promote healthy relationships among teens. Recently, SAFE partnered with HCDVCC to offer this program to youth in grades 6-12. As we are leading up to February, which is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, facilitator Stefanie Hayes is teaching the youth how to be aware and recognize Red Flags that can lead to dating violence. Stefanie also serves as a support to the educators, parents, and communities that serve our youth by providing prevention and the basics on teens and dating violence.

Here are a few things to know and share when working with tweens and teens to help spot teen dating violence and promote healthy relationships.

The first thing you will need know- what is a Red Flag?

A Red Flag is a sign or behavior that you see in someone that could turn problematic later; especially as it pertains to forming a relationship.

The most common red flags are lack of communication, control, aggressive behavior, can’t take No for an answer, and disrespect. These are just a few but recognizing these flags will allow you to help teens avoid toxic relationships.

The most important thing you can help young people do is to not ignore what they are seeing or feeling. If they encounter someone who is exhibiting this type of behavior, it is important for them to be aware and know how to handle the behavior. It may be necessary to pause and reflect, evaluate, and decide if they should walk … or better yet run away!

Overall, the key to spotting teen violence it to cultivate self -awareness. If we can help young people love themselves and know their worth, then they will be quick to identify what is healthy versus what is not. Doing this helps young people to avoid red flags and toxicity all together.

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Stefanie Hayes
Expect Respect Facilitator
HCDVCC

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Trauma-Informed Interviewing with Traumatized Children for First Responders

First responders play a vital role in the initial interview process for children who have experienced or witnessed domestic violence and sexual abuse.

It is imperative that first responders have a trauma-informed interviewing style. Before the interview, the first responder may need to implement components of psychological first aid such as identifying if the child is thirsty or hungry, cold, or needs medical attention to injuries.

The interview needs to be conducted at the child’s eye level to enhance their sense of safety, connection to the interviewer, empowering their sense of control, and within the child’s attention span. Trauma informed interviewing also designs questions that does not place guilt or responsibility on the child and recognizes that the child may respond nonverbally (i.e, head nod or acting out the response).

Questions also need to be non-leading and meets the child’s cognitive level: “Can you tell me what happened?” Do you remember what you were thinking or feeling when you saw your mother hurt?” First responders can also incorporate clarifying questions, as some children have been taught to identify body parts with “cutesy” terms such as cookie (vagina) or the perpetrator is called by a nickname instead of legal or parental name. The interview needs to be conducted away from the environment or person where the abuse occurred to reduce maintaining stress hormones from the trauma that impacts the nervous system.

The reduction in stress hormones will help the brain regulate itself, so the child can process questions to provide a response. To conclude, it is necessary for first responders to have the necessary education and training for interviewing children who have experienced or witnessed trauma in order to provide them with the high-quality care in distress.

A call to action for a first responder is to request trauma-informed education and training from their leaders.

About the Author

Sheree Burnett is a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor. She has over 10 years of working with various populations in community mental health, private practice, hospital, and university settings. She has particular training in working with trauma individuals and families who have experienced domestic violence. She has conducted didactic training, participated in panel conferences, and co-developed department initiatives to bring awareness about domestic violence and celebrate survivors of domestic abuse. She also obtained certification in Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy that further allows her to assist survivors with their healing journey in therapy. 

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Its a SMOOOTH Santa Visit

The SMOOOTH SANTA event was hosted last night at the office from 5-7 pm. This event was in partnership with SMOOOTH (more about them below). A total of 6 families were treated to a SMOOOTH SANTA Wonderland experience. Each family had 2-4 kiddos.

The experience started off with families being treated to goodie bags, sweets, hot chocolate, and drinks. Then the kiddos were invited to participate in festive arts and crafts. Then a picture with Santa (with the parent’s written consent) and that picture was then printed for them and framed for them to take home. Then they had carolers sing a couple of Christmas songs. Kiddos were then invited to decorate the Christmas tree. And finally (and most importantly for the kiddos), they got a Christmas gift or two!

The whole experience was very festive, and there was a smile on every face – from 4-month-olds to 15-year-olds!

I want to make sure and give a shout-out to the Trauma Support Partners who helped make this possible cause; honestly, our TSP team rocks!

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Desire Martinez, HCDVCC, Lead Trauma Support Partner
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Ring Donation Program Goes National

Ring has announced a partnership with the National Network to End Domestic (NNEDV) that will include a Ring product donation program that will benefit nonprofit organizations and tribal organizations whose primary mission is to support survivors of domestic violence. (See the full announcement here).

HCDVCC is excited that a program that started here in Harris County by our very own Susan Hickey is now going nationwide! Susan started incorporating Ring cameras in her Safety Plans with victims when it was appropriate. She recognized what a valuable tool the Ring camera could be, but she also realized how quickly that expense could add up for an agency and especially for a victim. So, she decided to send an email to Ring asking for a donation of a couple of cameras. Everyone, but Susan was surprised when Ring said sure and gave HCDVCC a very generous donation of not only Ring Video Doorbells and Security Cameras but included a free Ring Protect Subscription plan for the life of each donated device! To date, under Susan’s guidance, HCDVCC along with 12 our partner agencies, have been able to give out over 800 RING devices – helping over 2500 individuals in 8 different counties!

HCDVCC is proud of Susan Hickey and her unrelenting support of survivors! Way to go Susan!

(pictured: Barbie Brashear, HCDVCC Executive Director; Amy Smith, Sr. Director of Operations and Communications; Susan Hickey, Mobile Advocate-the one who first contacted Ring; and Congresswoman Sheila Jackson Lee.)

(HCDVCC’s first delivery of the Ring Cameras)

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Suicide Prevention Month

“We don’t really talk about suicide and that’s a problem; staying silent about suicide creates confusion, promotes stigma and isolates people when they need help the most.” The quote by Dr. Ali Mattu, Professor of Medical Psychology at Columbia, gives a call to action as we enter Suicide Prevention Month. Suicide is a complex, multifactorial public health issue. It is the second leading cause of death for ages 10-34 in the state of Texas and according to the 2022 State of Mental Health Report by Mental Health America, 4.58% (~11million people) of adults in the US reported having serious thoughts of suicide. From the Public Health perspective suicide is preventable by equipping the public with training and education about suicide and learning how to promote protective factors, understanding risk factors, and recognizing warning signs of suicide.

Protective Factors are characteristics that make it less likely that individuals will consider, attempt, or die by suicide. These include community and family connections, support for seeking help, effective mental health care, and lack of access to lethal means (firearms, weapons, prescription drugs).

Risk Factors are characteristics that make it more likely that individuals will consider, attempt, or die by suicide. The presence of risk factors is not indicative of possible suicide or suicidal ideation but help to understand which individuals may need additional support. Examples of risk factors include prior suicide attempts, experienced trauma (bullying, abuse), have a family history of suicide, experienced loss, or disruptions in an individual’s support system.

Warning Signs are indicators that an individual may be suicidal. If they are giving away possessions, using language (written or verbal) such as “ I wish I was dead” or “ Everyone would be better off without me”, seeking access to lethal means, increasing substance use/abuse, or experiencing sudden mood swings (depression, anxiety, loss of interest, shame).

I encourage everyone to get informed and do our part during Suicide Prevention month and every month to help save a life. If you or someone you know is dealing with suicidal ideation, please connect them to the following local or national resources:

  • Suicide and Crisis Line: (988) a confidential text, dialing, and chat code for anyone experiencing a suicidal or mental health related crisis (feeling hopeless, overwhelmed by your thoughts, or that you may harm yourself)
  • National Alliance on Mental Health Houston Warm Line: (713-970-448) a peer-run hotline that offers callers emotional support and is staffed by volunteers who are in recovery themselves.
  • Mobile Crisis Outreach Team 24/7 Crisis Line: (713-970-7000) If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact The Harris Center Crisis Line. Crisis Line Specialists will determine if a MCOT referral can benefit you.

 

If you are interested in training opportunities and resources about Suicide Prevention, please visit our website at https://mhahouston.org/training/health-literacy.

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Nicole Milton
Nicole Milton, Program Manager at Mental Health America of Greater Houston
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Out of Line

Often when folks think of bystander intervention, they envision intervening in the moment when something harmful is about to happen. Out of Line, a small group of community members are approaching bystander intervention a bit differently and were honored to receive Texas Association Against Sexual Assault’s 2021 Community Engagement Award for their prevention of violence work in the City of South Houston. The name Out of Line signifies the importance of stepping out of line to disrupt society’s harmful social norms. Our group believes it is important to stand up for radical change to transform our communities into safe and accepting places. We meet at least once a week via zoom or at a local coffee shop. Sometimes we are in our pjs, sitting outside the gym or just clocking out of work to organize, plan, and imagine new ways to engage our community.

These new ways include listening and learning from community. What do our community members want and need? How can we incorporate play, laughter and prioritize authentic relationship building? After taking time to learn what our community members wanted, we held a Movie Night in the Park, a Loteria Night, a Meditation in the Park event, a virtual cooking and make up tutorial class, a family game night, two storytelling nights focusing on mental health and body image and a Tie Dye and Tacos Party. We are currently planning a series of networking nights for small business owners or individuals considering beginning their own business. You may be wondering what any of this has to do with bystander intervention or prevention of violence. We know that violence is reduced through fostering genuine connection, empathy, and equity within our community, and these are the qualities we infuse in our events. Out of Line believes in a future without violence and we charge you to also consider the ways in which you can work alongside your community to create safer, equitable spaces affirming of people of all identities.

Originally referred to as Close to Home, the group decided to change their name to something that best defined their personalities and their community work. The name signifies the importance of stepping out of line to disrupt society’s harmful social norms. The group believes it is important to step out and stand up for radical change to transform our communities into a safe and accepting place, even if people think they are out of line for doing so.

Out of line meets every week at 8 PM. Their meetings are filled with laughter, ideas, and dreams, allowing members to be their authentic selves. Sometimes they’re in bed in their pajamas, or just clocking out from work, or waiting in their car outside the gym… regardless of where they are, every member has always been committed to finding new ways to engage their community.

Out of Line is dedicated to creating a sense of connectedness and cultivating community gatherings in the name of supporting survivors, healing communities through positive relationships, mental health support initiatives, open spaces for vulnerable and powerful conversations, and planning for the next steps to continue engagement. Some of the group’s events include a community movie night, Loteria game night, tie-dye party, Meditation and self-care discussion, Virtual cooking class, dance class for survivors, and more.

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Jessica Bellant, MSW is the Education and Prevention Director at The Bridge Over Troubled Waters, Inc.

Jessica provides interactive workshops at the local, regional and state level concerning domestic violence, sexual assault, and prevention of these forms of violence. Jessica previously provided guidance concerning Texas’s prevention of sexual violence programming by serving on the state’s Primary Prevention Planning Committee. Her previous experience includes providing crisis counseling and legal advocacy to survivors of gender-based violence and serving as an adjunct professor. Jessica believes in the power of violence prevention and is dedicating her career to fostering safer communities in SoutheastHarris County.

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Using a Privilege Lens in Active Bystander Training

When I began working at Rice University 5 years ago, I learned about how important bystander intervention is within college campus communities. Preventing violence is a community issue and ultimately everyone’s responsibility. Bystander Intervention is based on the philosophy that everyone can learn to safely intervene in potentially harmful situations and speak out against violence, as well as challenge social and cultural norms that perpetuate violence.

At Rice, when we teach about this topic, we make sure that participants understand that intervening is not just about stopping a physical or sexual assault while it is occurring. The likelihood of any of us happening upon one of these incidents is much less likely than other types of incidents. We must understand that behaviors we also need to pay attention to and intervene in include language and jokes that are used to harm (possibly unintentionally) and these often precede physical violence and desensitize us.

Another important component of bystander intervention training is to include information on privilege. Upon doing research, we initially learned that everyone in the community can be an active bystander for any situation. However, such an approach can overlook the impact of the complexity of a person’s’ intersecting identities, including their race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity, nation, age, and social class. It is difficult and often a safety risk for marginalized communities to intervene in potentially violent situations, especially if the potential active bystander is part of the same group as the person/people being targeted.

We challenge active bystanders to consider their privilege in all situations, and if needed, use that privilege to intervene. Here are some examples that we ask participants to consider. Can you reject someone and not worry about being threatened with degrading language or physical violence? Often, female/feminine identified people cannot. Can you be affectionate with a partner in public without fear? Often, the LGBTQ+ community cannot. Do you ever worry about being treated as if you are out to harm someone just based on the color of your skin? Often, persons of color do. If you do not experience one of these fears, that means that you have privilege in that situation, and it may be your turn to speak up and take action.

Whether you work on a college campus or in another community setting, we all have a responsibility to learn about and share about the importance of being an active bystander. We must start from within and increase our awareness about our privileges, and then educate our family, social circles, and systems, including oppressive structures.

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Cathryn Councill is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and works at Rice University. She is the Director of The SAFE Office, where they focus on education and student support around issues related to interpersonal violence. She also facilitates the LGBTQ+ Ally Training on campus and acts as the staff advisor for the undergraduate peer support/education program as well. She has extensive experience working in the field of domestic and sexual violence, including as case manager, therapist, educator, and group facilitator. She has also provided support to persons living with HIV, those experiencing drug and alcohol addiction, and to the LGBTQ+ community.
Cathryn’s favorite things include being in or near water, all animals and pets, unconditional empathy, rainbows, chai lattes, and her lovely wife.

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Reflect on Independence Day this year

As we reflect on Independence Day this year, we at Daya reflect on our mission’s core – the belief that every person deserves an independent life free from abuse. We have embodied this belief for 26 years since being founded and are committed to play our part in helping survivors gain freedom.

South Asian survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault face a myriad of barriers when it comes to getting help, oftentimes making staying silent the less risky option. For 26 years, Daya staff, board members, and volunteers have worked to break the silence around domestic abuse in the South Asian community by tirelessly advocating alongside survivors and community leaders. By uplifting the voices of South Asian survivors, Daya has been able to assist more than 400 survivors reclaim independence annually. While we are proud of our work over the last 26 years, we recognize there is still much to be done. As the effects of the COVID-19 pandemic continue, survivors face higher risks and increased vulnerabilities. In just 6 months, Daya has worked alongside 280 survivors who are bravely reclaiming their freedom by ending the cycle of abuse in their relationships.

This work is not done in a silo. Daya is stronger because of the partnerships with our sister organizations who we learn and grow with. Ending the domestic violence will take all of us working in coordination and in solidarity.

We invite you to acknowledge the freedom that results from healthy relationships and independent lives. At Daya, our commitment to independence looks like providing options instead of mandates, spreading knowledge instead of blame, and letting the client lead while always having their back.

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Rachna Khare, Executive Director

 


Tishya Bedi, Director of Outreach and Education