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HCDVCC Interviews the Candidates for District Attorney

The 2024 Election is not only important on a national level but for Harris County as well. Several races will directly affect the Criminal Justice System in Harris County, with none being as important as the race for Harris County District Attorney. According to the Texas Code of Criminal Procedure Article 2.01 one of the duties of a District Attorney is” ensuring justice is done, not a conviction.”  While the District Attorney’s race is considered a “down ballot” race meaning it is on the third page of a five-page ballot it is just as important as the races on page one. The Harris County Domestic Violence Coordinating Council invited the candidates running for District Attorney, Dan Simons, and Sean Teare, to sit down for a ZOOM interview and answer six questions submitted by our community partners. The questions include issues like how they would address the lack of adequate staffing and training at the D.A.’s Office, their position on victim’s input in plea agreements, the use of risk assessments in domestic violence cases, the length of time to process a charge at D.A. Intake, cases where women kill their abusers, and the tension between Law Enforcement and the D.A’s Office.

HCDVCC would like to thank both Dan and Sean for taking time out of their busy schedules to participate. We would like to thank you for taking the time to watch and we hope this helps you make your decision on who to vote for, for Harris County District Attorney.

Both candidates agreed to be interviewed and their full interviews are below.

Interview with Dan Simons

Interview with Sean Teare

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Black History Month Op-eds

Anti-Racism Policy

BIPOC Subcommittee Anti-Racism Policy

Racial Equity

The BIPOC subcommittee of the Domestic Violence Steering Committee of the greater Harris County area collaboration, supports the development of policy to combat racism and its effects. The subcommittee recognizes that the issue is a threat to the viability and health of staff, volunteers, and those we serve. Racism often manifests itself systemically, culturally, and interpersonally. The subcommittee is committed to engaging in actions that break down the walls of racial inequality. We strive for an environment where those we serve do not experience the barriers of racism. We further strive for all staff of partners within this collaborative to feel included, heard, and valued without the barriers of racism. Actions the subcommittee is proposing include but are not limited to:

1. Racial Equity Workgroup – The Racial Equity Workgroup is comprised of select subcommittee members from agencies across the Greater Houston Area. The purpose of the workgroup is to address the systemic, cultural, and interpersonal issues of racism, to make recommendations to the Steering Committee regarding partner agencies policy, and to establish best practice recommendations for the collaborative.

2. Host Partner Agency Conversations – The subcommittee is committed to offering strategic meetings where the partner agency teams are encouraged to share issues they are facing. The effort will include a cost sharing program where partner agency staff can anonymously report incidents of racism so this information is tracked and opportunities for accountability and change occurs.

3. Training – The subcommittee is seeking viable training for partner agencies’ staff as needed to include proposing a select microaggression video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQ9l7y4UuxY as part of the onboarding process of all partner agencies.

4. Evaluate Internal Practices – The subcommittee is committed to continually evaluating internal policies and procedures to ensure a consistent eye is on racial equality in all aspects of the collaborative.

The BIPOC subcommittee recommends that each member organization of HCDVCC include the following language in their DEI policies regarding equity vs equality:

While the terms equity and equality may sound similar, the implementation of one versus the other can lead to dramatically different outcomes for marginalized people.

Equality means each individual or group of people is given the same resources or opportunities. Equity recognizes that each person has different circumstances and allocates the exact resources and opportunities needed to reach an equal outcome. Therefore, racial equity recognizes and acknowledges the oppression and subjugation of racial minorities and strives to achieve fairness depending on current status and need. Racial equity is intentional and provides the resources and opportunities needed for BIPOC staff so they can reach an equal outcome to their white counterparts.

In addition, ORGANIZATION NAME prioritizes racial equity for Black and Indigenous staff first due to their being the recipients of the most severe and ongoing oppression and thus discrimination and maltreatment.

“The route to achieving equity will not be accomplished through treating everyone equally. It will be achieved by treating everyone justly according to their circumstances.”
—Paula Dressel, Race Matters Institute 1

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Holidays Op-eds

A Vision for 2024- Fostering Domestic Violence Awareness and Prevention

Domestic violence is, as you know, a harrowing societal issue that affects countless individuals and families worldwide. As we look ahead to 2024, it is mandatory for us to collectively strive for a future marked by diminished violence within our homes and communities. Domestic Violence Awareness Agencies, community members, and law enforcement all play pivotal roles in this endeavor, working in tandem to raise awareness, improve education, and intervene effectively.

The Power of Active Bystanders

A fundamental aspect of reducing domestic violence lies in the empowerment of community members to become active bystanders. Such individuals are not merely passive witnesses but rather conscientious and courageous individuals willing to take action when they witness potentially abusive situations. The steps toward becoming an active bystander are as follows:

  1. Recognizing the Signs: Education is key; community members must familiarize themselves with the signs of domestic violence. These may include physical injuries, emotional distress, social isolation, or controlling behavior.
  2. Intervening Safely: When encountering an abusive situation, active bystanders should approach it calmly and non-confrontationally, prioritizing the safety of all involved parties. Offering support to the victim and discouraging the abusive behavior are crucial steps.
  3. Seeking Professional Assistance: In situations that may escalate or pose immediate danger, it is essential to call the police or a domestic violence hotline promptly. Timely intervention can be life-saving.
  4. Providing Ongoing Support: Beyond the crisis, active bystanders should offer sustained support to victims. Encouraging them to access local resources such as shelters, support groups, and counseling services can be instrumental in their healing journey.

 

Speaking Out: The Power of Voices

Silence is an accomplice to domestic violence. Community members must be encouraged to speak out and report abusive behavior when they encounter it. By doing so, they can become agents of change in their communities. This can be accomplished through:

  1. Reporting to Authorities: When witnessing or suspecting domestic violence, individuals should not hesitate to report it to law enforcement. Their information could be the catalyst for protecting a victim and holding the abuser accountable.
  2. Supporting Survivors: Encourage survivors to report abuse and provide unwavering emotional support throughout the process. Assure them that they are not alone in their journey toward justice and healing.

Empowering Law Enforcement Through Education

Law enforcement agencies are crucial players in addressing domestic violence. By enhancing the education and training provided to officers, we can ensure that they respond to these situations with sensitivity, expertise, and empathy. Improvements in this area should encompass:

  1. Specialized Training: Police departments should offer comprehensive, specialized training to officers on how to handle domestic violence cases. This training should encompass understanding the dynamics of abuse, victim advocacy, and de-escalation techniques.
  2. Cultural Competency: In a diverse society, it is paramount that law enforcement officers receive education in cultural sensitivity and diversity. Different communities may have unique needs and barriers when dealing with domestic violence.
  3. Collaboration with Advocacy Organizations: To develop a coordinated response that prioritizes victim safety, law enforcement agencies should work closely with domestic violence awareness agencies and advocacy groups.

Fostering Community Awareness

Building a safer future begins with fostering awareness within our communities. Several strategies can be employed to achieve this:

  1. Public Awareness Campaigns: Launch public awareness campaigns through local media, social media platforms, and community events. These campaigns should educate people about domestic violence, its signs, and the resources available to survivors.
  2. Education in Schools and Workshops: Integrate domestic violence education into school curriculums and community workshops. By teaching young people about healthy relationships and how to recognize abusive behavior, we can shape a future generation equipped to prevent domestic violence.
  3. Accessible Resources: Ensure that the community has easy access to vital resources, such as helplines, shelters, and counseling services. Make this information readily available to those in need.

Reducing domestic violence in 2024 and beyond necessitates a concerted and collective effort. Domestic Violence Awareness Agencies, community members, and law enforcement must collaborate to create a safer environment for everyone. By becoming active bystanders, speaking up against abuse, enhancing law enforcement education, and raising community awareness, we can draw closer to a future characterized by reduced domestic violence and increased support for survivors. Together, we can make a significant difference and ensure that every individual has the right to live free from fear and abuse. Let our shared commitment to this cause pave the way for a brighter, safer tomorrow.

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Holidays Op-eds

Time to Reflect and Celebrate

As another year ends, it is time to reflect on the year that was. 2023 what a year! I remember looking forward to such a wonderful year (especially after surviving the chaos of Southwest Airlines!)  But never did I imagine what the world had in store for us. Two major wars raging, not to mention all the smaller conflicts that get little to no media coverage. Political turmoil, poverty, homelessness, hate crimes, and senseless violence throughout our country and the world. We lost many famous people this year (here is hoping you are eating a cheeseburger in paradise Jimmy Buffett and could heaven be any nicer for you Matthew Perry).

While I could fill line after line of all the terrible things that occurred this year I do want to reflect on some really good things:

  • The smile of a random stranger
  • The laugh of a child
  • A really needed hug
  • Cuddles with a pet
  • Supporters/funders who really understand what we need
  • Partners that are willing to work together
  • Watching co-workers blossom
  • Being able to say yes when everyone else has said no
  • The kindness of people
  • The strength and resilience of our clients
  • The strength and resilience of each one of us

I realize 2024 will bring many challenges, some that we know of, and I am sure many more we do not anticipate. But I cannot help but have gratitude for the things above and many more I did not list. I heard a friend say the other day, someone told her they start their day off with three things they are grateful for. So, I challenge you as I am challenging myself, to start your list of resolutions by finding at least one or two things to be grateful for every morning. My hope is that by the end of next year, your gratitude list is longer than just the few same old things each day!

Happy Holidays and cheers to an amazing New Year!

About the Author

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Senior Director of Operations and Communications at HCDVCC,

Amy Smith

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Holidays Op-eds

Supporting Survivors- Shopping Mindfully During the Holidays

The holiday season is a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration for many. However, it’s important to remember that for survivors of domestic violence, the holidays can be a particularly challenging and triggering time. The added stress, financial pressures, and family gatherings can exacerbate their trauma. As we embark on our holiday shopping journeys, it’s essential to keep survivors in mind and take steps to support them during this time. In this article, we’ll explore domestic violence, its impact on survivors, and how we can be more mindful shoppers to help those in need.

Understanding Domestic Violence:
Domestic violence is a pervasive issue that affects individuals of all genders, ages, races, and socioeconomic backgrounds. It encompasses physical, emotional, psychological, and financial abuse, and its consequences can be severe and long-lasting. Survivors often face a multitude of challenges, including fear, trauma, financial instability, and isolation.

The Impact of the Holidays on Survivors:
The holiday season can be particularly difficult for survivors of domestic violence for several reasons:

  • Increased Stress: The pressure to create a perfect holiday atmosphere, buy gifts, and engage in social activities can exacerbate survivors’ stress and anxiety.
  • Financial Strain: Survivors may struggle with limited financial resources due to economic abuse, making holiday expenses even more burdensome.
  • Isolation: Family gatherings can force survivors into uncomfortable situations where they may encounter their abusers or face questions about their relationship status.
  • Triggers: Holiday traditions, such as decorating the tree or exchanging gifts, may be associated with traumatic memories for survivors.

How to Keep Survivors in Mind While Shopping:

  • Support Local Domestic Violence Organizations:
    Consider donating to or volunteering at local domestic violence shelters or organizations. These groups provide critical support to survivors, including safe shelter, counseling, legal assistance, and resources for rebuilding their lives.
  • Choose Ethical and Inclusive Brands:
    Opt for products from brands that actively support survivors and promote gender equality. Look for companies that donate a portion of their profits to domestic violence charities or prioritize hiring survivors.
  • Shop Thoughtfully:
    Be mindful of the gifts you choose. Avoid items that could potentially be used as weapons or trigger traumatic memories. Instead, select thoughtful, non-violent gifts that promote self-care, relaxation, and healing.
  • Gift Cards:
    When in doubt, gift cards to stores or restaurants provide survivors with flexibility and the ability to choose what they need most. Gift cards can also help survivors regain a sense of control over their lives.
  • Respect Boundaries:
    If you’re aware that someone you know is a survivor, respect their boundaries when giving gifts or planning gatherings. Ask for their preferences and avoid pressuring them into uncomfortable situations.
  • Offer Emotional Support:
    Sometimes, a heartfelt note or a simple message of support can mean the world to a survivor. Let them know you care, and that you’re there to listen if they want to talk.

The holiday season should be a time of compassion, empathy, and support for all. By keeping survivors of domestic violence in mind as we shop and celebrate, we can contribute to a safer, more inclusive holiday experience for everyone. Supporting local organizations, choosing ethical brands, and respecting survivors’ boundaries are just a few ways we can make a positive impact during this festive season.

Let’s work together to create a world where survivors can heal and find hope during the holidays and beyond.

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Op-eds

Shining a Light on Domestic Violence

As we prepare to celebrate the holiday season with our loved ones, it’s crucial to remember that not everyone experiences this time of year with warmth and joy. For many individuals and families, the holidays can be a period of heightened stress and danger due to domestic violence. At HCDVCC, we believe it’s essential to shine a light on this issue and offer support to those in need during December and beyond.

Understanding the Holiday Challenge

While the holidays are often depicted as a time of togetherness and happiness, they can also intensify the challenges faced by survivors of domestic violence. The stress associated with financial pressures, family gatherings, and the expectation of joyful celebrations can exacerbate abusive situations. Abusers may use these factors to maintain control, making it difficult for victims to seek help or escape.

The Power of Awareness and Support

This December, let’s make a collective effort to raise awareness about domestic violence during the holiday season. Here are some ways you can help:

  • Share Information: Educate your friends and family about the signs of domestic violence and available resources. Knowledge is a powerful tool for prevention and support.
  • Be a Good Listener: If someone confides in you about their experiences, listen without judgment and offer emotional support. Encourage them to seek help when they are ready.
  • Donate: Consider donating to domestic violence shelters or our Secret Sisters Fund. Your contributions can make a significant difference in the lives of those affected.
  • Spread Awareness: Use your social media platforms and personal networks to share information about domestic violence resources and the importance of seeking help. Use hashtags like #BreakTheSilence and #DVawareness.
  • Plan Safe Celebrations: If you’re hosting gatherings, be mindful of creating a safe and inclusive environment for all attendees. This includes being aware of the dynamics of abuse and offering support discreetly if needed.

Seeking Help

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please know that help is available. Reach out to local domestic violence hotlines, shelters, or organizations like The National DV Hotline for support, guidance, and resources. Your safety is our top priority.

This December, let’s come together to shine a light on domestic violence and offer hope to those who need it. By raising awareness and providing support, we can make a meaningful difference in the lives of survivors during the holiday season and throughout the year.

If you would like more information or resources, please see our website.

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Op-eds

Gratitude in the Workplace

In a world often marked by its fast pace and relentless demands, it is all too easy to overlook the moments of gratitude that weave through our daily lives. Yet, in the heart of every successful team lies a deep appreciation for the people, experiences, and opportunities that have shaped their journey. As we pause to reflect on what truly matters, we’re reminded that gratitude is not just a fleeting sentiment but a powerful force that fosters unity, resilience, and a profound sense of belonging. We recently asked our team members what they are grateful for and below are their sentiments of gratitude, highlighting the diverse sources of inspiration that fuel our collective spirit and drive us to achieve remarkable results together.
  • I am honored to work with an agency that is, so survivor driven and meets the survivor where they are in their own journey and is supportive of their decisions for what is best for their life and family.
  • I am grateful for the love of my family and friends.
  • I am grateful for the wonderful people in my life- my family, friends, and coworkers (who are like family and friends). It is not often we are blessed with so many people on our journey that “get” us. I love the laughter, the hugs and support I receive daily, especially from my dog!
  • I am grateful to wake up every morning, grateful to be surrounded by loved loves here on earth and those in spirit. I’m grateful to have a place to lay my head to sleep but most importantly to occasionally feel a glimpse of GOD’s love in everyday life to remind me of his love for me.
  • I am grateful for my HCDVCC family. Anytime we connect, it’s always a good vibe.
  • I am grateful for life!
  • I am grateful for excellent health and wealth for my family and true friends!!!
  • 😊 I am so grateful for my immediate, extended and work family. The support that I receive from them all never goes unnoticed. I thank God for each and every one of them and hope and pray that they all are as grateful as I am. 😊
  • I have so many things to be grateful for this year! First and foremost, I am grateful for my health. I was down for a couple of months this year and boy was that a humbling experience. It made me very aware of how for granted I take my physical and mental health. So, this year, THAT is the main thing I am grateful for. For this amazing body and mind that has the capacity to heal and carries me everywhere I need to go. I am also grateful for all the amazing people in my life – from family, friends, colleagues, to clients. They bless me in more ways than I could ever express in words!
  • Grateful to serve in a way that aligns with my spirit and for neurofeedback which has yielded my neuro-regulation 😊.
  • Very grateful for my family & friends who love me unconditionally and give me the strength and power to dodge the curveballs life throws my way.”
  • I am grateful for God, my family, my friends (co-workers included), and my amazing job.
  • I am grateful for the beautiful blessings in my life, including my excellent health, fantastic family, supportive network of friends, and fulfilling job that empowers me to make a positive impact in the world.
  • I am grateful for the honor of working with so many dedicated and passionate people who are trying to lift up and support those experiencing trauma. It is a gift to be able to do this work.
  • I am grateful for having supportive family and friends, and also my amazing team who are so supportive and I know 100% have my back. I am grateful that my team creates this safe space to vent to each other and just support each other when our job gets hard.
  • I am grateful for my family, friends, and the opportunity to be part of change no matter how small it is over the last two decades.
  • As a mobile advocate, I am thankful for the agencies and the service providers we work with and how open and excited they are to learn more about domestic violence in order to provide the best services to their clients. I am thankful for the leadership at these organizations, that understands the need and has greeted the advocates with open arms, eager to learn more about domestic violence and how it intersects in their roles in the community. I am thankful for the service providers that work with survivors and how honest and open they have been with their own stories and experiences and the trust they have in us for their clients and themselves. I am thankful for the brave individuals that have shared with me their experiences, their pain, and their hopes for the future.
  • I am thankful for Life, Health, Family and HCDVCC. Having the ability to help and serve others while providing for my family is an amazing gift.
  • I think what I am most grateful for is being able to work in an industry that means something personally to me.
  • Things I’m grateful for: -my job and the privilege of being able to support survivors in a difficult setting. -my family and friends, who pour into me to keep me going. -my dogs for bringing me joy when I need it the most.
As we conclude our exploration of gratitude within our team, it becomes evident that this simple, yet profound emotion serves as the glue that binds us together. From the smallest acts of kindness to the grandest moments of triumph, our shared gratitude has been the catalyst for collaboration, understanding, and growth. It reminds us that while we may face challenges and uncertainties in our journey, the power of gratitude can illuminate the path ahead, helping us navigate even the most complex of endeavors. As we continue to foster a culture of appreciation, we look forward to the future with renewed optimism, knowing that the bonds forged through gratitude will remain steadfast, guiding us toward even greater achievements and shared moments of thankfulness.
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AVDRT Op-eds

Recommendations from the Adult Violent Death Review Team 2022

Recommendations from the Adult Violent Death Review Team 2022

The Harris County Domestic Violence Coordinating Council was designated by the Harris County Commissioner’s Court in August of 2003 to officially facilitate the Harris County Adult Death Review Team (AVDRT). Each month, AVDRT conducts system-wide reviews of selected cases, that have been adjudicated, of unexpected adult deaths that have been caused by intimate partner violence in the Houston/Harris County Area. At the end of each year, AVDRT generates recommendations gleaned from the information learned at the case reviews.
In 2022 the biggest challenge to the Team, was the backlog created due to the combination of Hurricane Harvey and Covid-19 and the length of time to review cases increased creating a further delay in creating a case list for review. In fact, the team reviewed all the cases possible from the Harris County Sheriff’s Office by the fall. All the incidents from the cases reviewed occurred in either 2018 or 2019.

Recommendations

Create training opportunities for advocates that focus on crucial conversations with victims- One trend that emerged was an increase in alleged victims being charged with killing their alleged abusers. The team felt the most important recommendation to attempt to increase safety, included creating training that shared the findings from the review team and using case studies to create conversations with advocates to explore the need to have sincere and frank conversations with victims around the consequences of choosing to stay with their harm doer. This includes highlighting safety planning for staying in relationships when there are high lethality indicators for future risk and harm. Additionally, this would include talking about the lethality for both parties involved in the relationship and the use of deadly tactics by victims to attempt to be safe from the harm doer. It is important for advocates to discuss consequences that include possible prosecution and prison time.

Increase Training for all Judges -After reviewing cases where family court judges either denied a protective order or weakened the terms of the order, or criminal court judges did not issue a Magistrate’s Order of Emergency Protection or dismissed previous cases; it was determined that Judges needed more training related to domestic violence, risk and lethality, and how judicial decision making can increase safety for victims and accountability for offenders. This includes the dynamics of domestic violence, the effects of witnessing domestic violence on children and the long- term effects of domestic violence on survivors, and use of evidence based risk assessment tools for judicial decision making.

Increase Training for Prosecutors – Several of the cases reviewed involved possible (undiagnosed) traumatic brain injuries (TBI). The team determined that prosecutors appeared to not have the basic information and training to understand the effects of TBI on victims of domestic violence. One prosecutor stated, “What is TBI?” There is need for providing training to increase knowledge about TBI as well as, the need for prosecutors to explore and investigate the entire history between the victim and the offender before making charging decisions. Additionally, if the victim and offender were juveniles or young adults, a review of school records should be conducted to gain insight to the history and/or any documentation of abuse. It also is further recommended that prosecutors contact the law enforcement investigator prior to taking a case to Grand Jury for a more thorough and detailed report of any additional information that might have been uncovered. Investigators often have critical pieces of information that can enhance the prosecutor’s ability to present a case and it needs to be communicated as soon as it is available.

Increase Training for Professionals in the Criminal Justice System- One of 2022’s recommendations relate to training Probation Officers to recognize the possibility that their clients could be a victim of domestic violence, assess for needs, conduct safety planning and provide referrals. HCDVCC provided training to the entire Harris County Probation Office staff in 2022 and is now part of the new employee orientation to provide ongoing training and support to the office. This year parole officers, juvenile probation officers and Children’s Protective Service caseworkers were added to that recommendation. It is also noted those three entities need better treatment options and follow through on the completion of treatment for people under their supervision.

Enhance training for Advocates- Advocates and volunteers that work the hotline at domestic violence agencies receive 40 hours of training and supervision before they answer their first call. The team recommends that advocate and volunteer training include information about asking about the mental health of the offender and if they have had any interaction with a third party for example, law enforcement, a judge, a counselor/therapist, a CPS caseworker, a probation/parole officer and was the outcome successful or not. This information could be useful when crafting a safety plan with a survivor including knowing the risks and how to form strategies around keeping the victim and their family safe.

Increase Training for the General Public- Often domestic violence does not take place behind closed doors. In can spill over to public spaces including parking lots, workplaces, churches, and gatherings. Many who witness domestic violence do not know how to intervene or even if they should do so. More bystander intervention training is needed to assist those bystanders in making smart and safe decisions about intervening. Training is also needed on the dynamics of domestic violence, healthy relationships, and resources. This training could help educate prospective jurors to make educated decisions when deciding the outcome of domestic violence cases, as well as, provide family members and friends with information on how to help their loved ones. Additionally, Proprietary Schools who receive federal funding should abide by Title IX guidelines and provide information about domestic violence and referrals for their students. And lastly, there is the need for training of documenting information, including serial numbers, brand, type, and photos of all of their firearms. Most importantly, the need for reporting to the police when firearms have been stolen in a burglary of a car or a house. This could enhance the investigation into all homicides. In most of the cases reviewed, the origin of the firearm was never determined.

Enhance Intervention in the Investigation Process- Several of the cases reviewed had prior interaction with law enforcement and/or the District Attorney’s Office. While recognizing both of these entities are overworked and understaffed, the need to treat domestic violence cases differently became obvious. First, advocates need to build a rapport with victims and not just treat them as a checklist to get through before moving on to the next case. Second, they need to make continued attempts to contact the victim by any means necessary. This means policy cannot dictate or limit the number of attempts to contact a victim and could include personal visits made with an investigator, especially for those who have repeated calls for service. And finally, the most important recommendation would be to try and minimize the time from incident to investigation to charging.

Create and Increase Investments in future Innovations and Technology- These last recommendations will require a tremendous investment of both time and money, and are needed in order to begin saving money through streamlining of information systems that reduce the amount of work required to develop case information. Implementation of a database/tracking system shared by the District Attorney’s Office and all law enforcement agencies could go a long way toward saving time and increasing communication across systems that directly relates to more timely prosecution and increased victim safety. Such a system would include information about offenders, their previous encounters with law enforcement where charges were not filed, and any other information deemed necessary. It would also include information about services the survivor has received and who provided those services along with the contact information for the provider. Finally, our community needs to invest in primary prevention around domestic violence from an early age. Education and training are proven interventions that can prevent domestic violence and they can never start too early!