Hosted by The Bridge Over Troubled Waters, this is a Survivor Panel and Community Conversation, along with a post panel breakout sessions, includinga survivors support cirlce (in English and Spanish), friends and family circle, and a session on understanding the realities of domestic violence.
We have an ACTION ALERT we would like to share! We would love for you to join us in speaking and/or showing up at Commissioner’s Court on Tuesday September 10 in support of the budget to continue Domestic Violence Assistance Funds.
We are thrilled that Harris County is recognizing the value of this important fund for survivors, and we are beyond grateful that Commissioners are considering the continuation of this assistance. This is exciting news for our county, and we need YOUR HELP to make sure we voice our support for this fund!
If you’ve never provided public comment to Commissioners Court on an issue before, never fear! Here are some important things to consider when signing up and in using your voice/making your statement:
Comments are restricted to 1 minute, so it’s helpful to write out what you’d like to say beforehand to ensure you adhere to the time given. Public comment is generally provided at the beginning of the session, and registered names are called one at a time.
If you live in Harris County, it would be great to state who your Commissioner is as you begin your comments. An example of this could go as follows:
Hello. My name is ____________, and I live in Pct. ____________. I am here today to voice my support for the Domestic Violence Assistance Funds because_____________________.
If you don’t live in Harris County, no worries! Your comments will still be important because you WORK and/or provide service to survivors in Harris County. So, an example of your statement could go as follows:
Hello. My name is ____________, and I work for Harris County Domestic Violence Coordinating Council. I am here to voice my support for the Domestic Violence Assistance Funds because______________.
And the because will be important! AND there is so much to say here that will be valuable! For instance – If you have a specific story of a survivor you’d like to share (with the survivor’s permission), please do. If you want to share how these funds made you feel in being able to do your work, please do! If you want to talk about how proud you are of our county in recognizing the need for this additional support and really listening to what is working for our area, please do! If you want to give a history lesson of how dv/ipv has been a longstanding epidemic in our community that has been under resourced and under funded for a very long time, please do! The sky is the limit on what you could say and share! And remember – first rule of advocacy especially in an area that you know so well – YOU ARE THE EXPERT ON THIS! Don’t let their position or “status” make you feel like you don’t know what you are talking about or that what you say isn’t valuable.
WE THE PEOPLE… 😊
June is Pride Month, a time to celebrate the diversity and resilience of the LGBTQIA community. However, it is also an important moment to acknowledge and address the significant challenges faced by this community, including domestic violence. Understanding the unique dynamics and statistics surrounding intimate partner violence (IPV) in the LGBTQIA community is crucial for effective prevention and support.
Statistics and Trends
Domestic violence in the LGBTQIA community is a pervasive issue that often goes underreported and underacknowledged. Nationally, research shows that 43.8% of lesbian women and 61.1% of bisexual women have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner at some point in their lives. For gay and bisexual men, the rates are 26% and 37.3%, respectively. These rates are significantly higher than those reported by heterosexual individuals, indicating a troubling disparity.
In Houston and Harris County, Texas, the situation reflects broader national trends. Domestic violence homicides have increased sharply in recent years, with intimate partner violence homicides in the area doubling from 32 in 2019 to 64 in 2022. The increase in calls to shelters and domestic violence hotlines also highlights the growing need for resources and support for victims in the region.
Why It Happens
Several factors contribute to the high rates of domestic violence in the LGBTQIA community:
Who Is More Frequently Affected
Certain groups within the LGBTQIA community are more vulnerable to domestic violence:
Tips for Victims of Intimate Partner Violence
Addressing domestic violence in the LGBTQIA community requires a multifaceted approach that includes increasing awareness, improving access to resources, and fostering an environment where victims feel safe and supported to seek help. During Pride Month, and beyond, it is essential to continue advocating for the rights and safety of all individuals within the LGBTQIA community.
For more information on resources and support in the Houston area, you can visit the Montrose Center’s website.
May is Share Your Story Month and Mental Health Awareness Month. Combining those two topics we sent out a survey to our staff with the following questions:
1) What initially drew you to the field of non profit?
2) What motivated you to specialize in domestic violence issues specifically?
3) How do you maintain self-care and resilience while working in such a demanding and emotionally taxing field?
4) Is there anything else you’d like to share about your journey, your motivations, or your experiences in this field?
Here are their stories.
1) “I’m passionate about making a positive impact in the world and believe in the power of collective action to address social issues and create positive change. I’m also inspired by the opportunity to work towards a cause that aligns with my values and allows me to contribute to the greater good of society.”
2) “I was designed to have a understanding of various social and provide support and information on how to address them. Domestic violence is a serious problem that affects many people, and I want be able to provide accurate and helpful information to those who may be experiencing or know who is experiencing domestic violence. It’s important to raise awareness and support survivors in any way we can.”
3) “Self-care is extremely important when working in a demanding and emotionally taxing field like supporting survivors of domestic violence. It’s important to take breaks when needed, set boundaries, and practice self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, and spending time loved ones. It’s also helpful to seek support from colleagues, supervisors, or a therapist to process difficult emotions and experiences. I try to remember to prioritize my own well-being so i can continue to others effectively.”
4) “I am programmed to provide accurate and helpful information on various topics, including domestic violence. My main motivation is to assist and support individuals who may be experiencing such difficult situations. It is important to raise awareness about domestic violence and provide for those in need.”
1) “I love giving back to others. I think that it is important to all the communities.”
2) “My past experiences-first my mom’s ex and then my ex. This industry is the most overlooked and most misunderstood.”
3) “I practice self-care by spending time with family and friends, watching documentaries on TV, working out, and playing video/board games.”
1) “My journey to advocacy began with the mission of DVCC not necessarily that it was a non-profit.”
2) “My passion for domestic violence advocacy work started when I realized there are a lot of survivors but not a whole lot of quality services. Everyone deserves to live a violence free life and I want to make sure that kids that grow up in that environment don’t have to continue the cycle of abuse.”
3) “I maintain my mental health through spending time with friends who are not in the movement to take a break but the most important thing is cuddling with my dog!”
4) “My final thoughts on motivation and experiences are setting boundaries, knowing your limits and knowing when to take a break are the only things that get you through working in this high stress environment. “
1) “My journey to advocacy began with my passion for bringing about positive change and making a real difference by addressing social issues attracted me to the nonprofit field. My work is a legacy, as I know my efforts can have a lasting impact beyond my lifetime. It gives me immense satisfaction to know that I am contributing to something greater than myself and leaving a positive legacy for future generations.”
2) “My passion for domestic violence advocacy work started when entering a women’s domestic violence shelter and realizing I was the only male present was a turning point for me. Understanding the statistics surrounding domestic violence, I realized the crucial role men play in both perpetuating and addressing this issue. As a husband, father, and brother, I am inspired to challenge myself and others to become involved and specialize in domestic violence issues. By breaking stereotypes, dismantling patriarchy, promoting healthy relationships, and building empathy and compassion, men can make a significant contribution to eradicating domestic violence.”
3) “I maintain my mental health is practicing self-care and resilience is by knowing my limits and understanding that I can only control what I can control.”
4) “Making someone feel visible will increase their perceived value of you. It’s a powerful lesson I learned on my own journey, and I’ve found that it can make a huge difference in any personal or professional relationship. “
April may bring spring showers, but it also brings Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month, Child Abuse Prevention Month and Crime Victims’ Rights Week. While much will be written and many events will be planned about Sexual Assault and Child Abuse Prevention and Awareness through out this month, Crime Victim’s Rights Week always seem to get lost in the shuffle. The week of April 21st – 27th is a time to highlight and recognize the often-overlooked rights of crime victims. Crime Victims deserve our time and attention for more than just this one week, they deserve it every day of the year. This year’s theme is “Options, Services and Hope for Crime Survivors. How would you help?”
According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics in 2022 there were 6.6 million violent victimizations against persons aged 12 or older and 13.4 million property crimes. However, we also know that many survivors do not report or tell anyone what happened to them. The reasons differ from person to person but some think by sharing it will make things worse especially if it is an ongoing issue, some are fearful especially if the perpetrator is someone they know or someone they perceive as powerful, like a boss, religious leader, or an influential person. Survivors can also feel ashamed, feel like it is their fault, fear they will not be taken seriously or fear retaliation. So, the question is how would you help a crime survivor? Would you know what to do?
A few things you can do is Offer Support. Start by listening without judgement and believe them. Just be there for them and show your support by giving them your time and focusing on what they are saying. It is their story to tell, and it is their decision about how much they want to share, it is your responsibility to listen to what they are saying without interrupting, judging, or giving unsolicited advice. Their story is unique to them and can not be compared to yours or anyone else’s. Share Resources- Familiarize yourself with local resources and hotline numbers. Google what they need and share what you find. You do not need to become an expert, there are plenty of those around, but find out what they need and more importantly what they want. Just by helping them locate resources, you can help them take back some of the control they might have lost because of being a crime victim.
Do not ever underestimate the Power of Hope. By listening and offering to help, crime survivors can take the steps toward establishing their new normal. Hope is also essential to mitigating some effects of the trauma associated with being a crime victim. Let us all help a crime victim become a crime survivor.
To learn more about options, services, and hope for crime survivors as well as access material to help spread awareness of victims’ rights and resources this week and every day, visit The 2024 National Crime Victims’ Rights Week (NCVRW) Resource Guide .
As we celebrate Women’s History month let’s look at the women who made a difference not only in Social Justice but in helping to shape the Domestic Violence movement.
Throughout history, women have been at the forefront of social justice movements, championing causes that seek to dismantle systems of oppression and inequality. One such movement that has seen the tireless efforts of women is the fight against domestic violence. From grassroots activism to legislative reform, women have played pivotal roles in shaping the discourse and policies surrounding domestic violence. This article explores the historical contributions of women in leading the domestic violence movement through the lens of social justice.
Early Pioneers:
The roots of the domestic violence movement can be traced back to the activism of early pioneers who dared to challenge societal norms and advocate for change. Women like Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony, prominent figures in the suffrage movement, recognized that violence against women within the home was not merely a private matter but a pervasive social issue requiring public attention. Their advocacy laid the groundwork for future generations of women to address domestic violence as a fundamental human rights issue.
Intersectional Perspectives:
As the domestic violence movement gained momentum, women from diverse backgrounds brought intersectional perspectives that highlighted the interconnectedness of gender-based violence with other forms of oppression. Women of color, such as Sojourner Truth and Ida B. Wells, emphasized the unique experiences of marginalized communities facing domestic violence. Their advocacy shed light on the intersections of race, class, and gender, challenging the movement to adopt inclusive approaches that address the needs of all survivors.
Grassroots Activism:
At the heart of the domestic violence movement are grassroots activists who work tirelessly to support survivors and challenge systems of power. Women-led organizations like the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and the Women’s Aid Federation of England mobilized communities, provided essential services, and advocated for policy changes. These grassroots efforts not only raised awareness but also empowered survivors to speak out and seek help, laying the groundwork for broader social change.
Legislative Reform:
Women’s advocacy within the domestic violence movement has also been instrumental in driving legislative reform to better protect survivors and hold perpetrators accountable. Trailblazing legislators like Patsy T. Mink and Louise Slaughter championed landmark legislation such as the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), which provided critical resources for survivors and enhanced legal remedies for domestic violence cases. Their legislative achievements underscored the importance of policy interventions in addressing systemic issues of domestic violence.
Global Impact:
The domestic violence movement led by women has transcended national borders, with activists around the world advocating for change and solidarity. Women like Leymah Gbowee, who played a pivotal role in ending Liberia’s civil war through nonviolent protest, demonstrated the power of grassroots mobilization in confronting violence and promoting peace. Similarly, Malala Yousafzai’s courageous advocacy for girls’ education in the face of violence and oppression inspired a global movement for gender equality and social justice.
Women have been at the forefront of the domestic violence movement, leading with courage, compassion, and resilience. Their contributions, rooted in principles of social justice, have reshaped societal attitudes, influenced policy reforms, and empowered survivors to reclaim their agency. As we continue to strive for a world free from violence and oppression, let us honor the legacy of these women pioneers and stand in solidarity with all those working towards a more just and equitable society.
Black History Month, celebrated annually in February, honors the achievements and contributions of African Americans throughout history. It serves as a reminder of the struggles and triumphs of Black individuals in the face of systemic racism and oppression. This month-long observance provides a platform to educate, celebrate, and reflect on the rich cultural heritage and significant role of Black people in shaping global history. Recognizing Black History Month fosters inclusivity, diversity, and understanding in society, promoting unity and social progress. It’s an essential time for individuals and communities to acknowledge past injustices, celebrate achievements, and work towards a more equitable future.
In addition to commemorating Black History Month, we have a video where individuals discuss figures they admire and their reasons why. You can find the video below. Let us know in the comments who you admire!
There are so many suggestions and innuendos on what a healthy relationship is and what it is not. A lot of the examples that we see come from social media or reality TV, and if we are honest some of us are just navigating without a parachute. Sheesh and that’s from the adult view.
However, what about our teens?
You know the population who is influenced by the above genre the most.
In working with teens, we see that self-esteem and self-worth, or the lack thereof is a deadly formula that puts a mark on their back for heartbreak, misunderstanding, and sometimes abuse.
When you don’t love yourself you become an easy prey for toxicity. Examples of this are the young girl or boy who never received nurturing, love, or affection. This will be the teen looking for love in all the wrong places. The kid who accepts any affection because face it, it’s better than nothing at all.
Or the young person with the example of parents who argue as a means of effective communication. 9 out of 10 this will be the teen who is the aggressor when they begin a relationship.
The last one… the child where nothing they do is ever good enough.
This is the youngster who will accept belittlement, disrespect, and yes they are even prone to experience violence because they are in a low state.
As we enter into Respect Week these are some of the matters facing the youth served. We must intervene. In order to help or be a solution we have to point the child back to their individual self.
In group settings, this may start with questions or statements such as,
Do you like you?
Do you love you?
Give me one positive word that describes you.
This opens for discussion and allows us to encourage and teach youth to have a great level of love and respect for self. For many, this may be new as they have been in an unhealthy relationship with themselves, which has affected their relationships with others. Ouch!
The only way for us to have beneficial prevention is to point youth back to a healthy regard for self. If we create this as the foundation, then we give them a pretty good start on recognizing who or what is healthy for them.
It goes back to the core. One of the most important relationships one will ever have is the one with self. So, treat yourself with love and respect.
Treat yourself well, you deserve it!
Stefanie Hayes
Expect Respect Facilitator
HCDVCC
