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A Vision for 2024- Fostering Domestic Violence Awareness and Prevention

Domestic violence is, as you know, a harrowing societal issue that affects countless individuals and families worldwide. As we look ahead to 2024, it is mandatory for us to collectively strive for a future marked by diminished violence within our homes and communities. Domestic Violence Awareness Agencies, community members, and law enforcement all play pivotal roles in this endeavor, working in tandem to raise awareness, improve education, and intervene effectively.

The Power of Active Bystanders

A fundamental aspect of reducing domestic violence lies in the empowerment of community members to become active bystanders. Such individuals are not merely passive witnesses but rather conscientious and courageous individuals willing to take action when they witness potentially abusive situations. The steps toward becoming an active bystander are as follows:

  1. Recognizing the Signs: Education is key; community members must familiarize themselves with the signs of domestic violence. These may include physical injuries, emotional distress, social isolation, or controlling behavior.
  2. Intervening Safely: When encountering an abusive situation, active bystanders should approach it calmly and non-confrontationally, prioritizing the safety of all involved parties. Offering support to the victim and discouraging the abusive behavior are crucial steps.
  3. Seeking Professional Assistance: In situations that may escalate or pose immediate danger, it is essential to call the police or a domestic violence hotline promptly. Timely intervention can be life-saving.
  4. Providing Ongoing Support: Beyond the crisis, active bystanders should offer sustained support to victims. Encouraging them to access local resources such as shelters, support groups, and counseling services can be instrumental in their healing journey.

 

Speaking Out: The Power of Voices

Silence is an accomplice to domestic violence. Community members must be encouraged to speak out and report abusive behavior when they encounter it. By doing so, they can become agents of change in their communities. This can be accomplished through:

  1. Reporting to Authorities: When witnessing or suspecting domestic violence, individuals should not hesitate to report it to law enforcement. Their information could be the catalyst for protecting a victim and holding the abuser accountable.
  2. Supporting Survivors: Encourage survivors to report abuse and provide unwavering emotional support throughout the process. Assure them that they are not alone in their journey toward justice and healing.

Empowering Law Enforcement Through Education

Law enforcement agencies are crucial players in addressing domestic violence. By enhancing the education and training provided to officers, we can ensure that they respond to these situations with sensitivity, expertise, and empathy. Improvements in this area should encompass:

  1. Specialized Training: Police departments should offer comprehensive, specialized training to officers on how to handle domestic violence cases. This training should encompass understanding the dynamics of abuse, victim advocacy, and de-escalation techniques.
  2. Cultural Competency: In a diverse society, it is paramount that law enforcement officers receive education in cultural sensitivity and diversity. Different communities may have unique needs and barriers when dealing with domestic violence.
  3. Collaboration with Advocacy Organizations: To develop a coordinated response that prioritizes victim safety, law enforcement agencies should work closely with domestic violence awareness agencies and advocacy groups.

Fostering Community Awareness

Building a safer future begins with fostering awareness within our communities. Several strategies can be employed to achieve this:

  1. Public Awareness Campaigns: Launch public awareness campaigns through local media, social media platforms, and community events. These campaigns should educate people about domestic violence, its signs, and the resources available to survivors.
  2. Education in Schools and Workshops: Integrate domestic violence education into school curriculums and community workshops. By teaching young people about healthy relationships and how to recognize abusive behavior, we can shape a future generation equipped to prevent domestic violence.
  3. Accessible Resources: Ensure that the community has easy access to vital resources, such as helplines, shelters, and counseling services. Make this information readily available to those in need.

Reducing domestic violence in 2024 and beyond necessitates a concerted and collective effort. Domestic Violence Awareness Agencies, community members, and law enforcement must collaborate to create a safer environment for everyone. By becoming active bystanders, speaking up against abuse, enhancing law enforcement education, and raising community awareness, we can draw closer to a future characterized by reduced domestic violence and increased support for survivors. Together, we can make a significant difference and ensure that every individual has the right to live free from fear and abuse. Let our shared commitment to this cause pave the way for a brighter, safer tomorrow.

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Time to Reflect and Celebrate

As another year ends, it is time to reflect on the year that was. 2023 what a year! I remember looking forward to such a wonderful year (especially after surviving the chaos of Southwest Airlines!)  But never did I imagine what the world had in store for us. Two major wars raging, not to mention all the smaller conflicts that get little to no media coverage. Political turmoil, poverty, homelessness, hate crimes, and senseless violence throughout our country and the world. We lost many famous people this year (here is hoping you are eating a cheeseburger in paradise Jimmy Buffett and could heaven be any nicer for you Matthew Perry).

While I could fill line after line of all the terrible things that occurred this year I do want to reflect on some really good things:

  • The smile of a random stranger
  • The laugh of a child
  • A really needed hug
  • Cuddles with a pet
  • Supporters/funders who really understand what we need
  • Partners that are willing to work together
  • Watching co-workers blossom
  • Being able to say yes when everyone else has said no
  • The kindness of people
  • The strength and resilience of our clients
  • The strength and resilience of each one of us

I realize 2024 will bring many challenges, some that we know of, and I am sure many more we do not anticipate. But I cannot help but have gratitude for the things above and many more I did not list. I heard a friend say the other day, someone told her they start their day off with three things they are grateful for. So, I challenge you as I am challenging myself, to start your list of resolutions by finding at least one or two things to be grateful for every morning. My hope is that by the end of next year, your gratitude list is longer than just the few same old things each day!

Happy Holidays and cheers to an amazing New Year!

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Senior Director of Operations and Communications at HCDVCC,

Amy Smith

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Supporting Survivors- Shopping Mindfully During the Holidays

The holiday season is a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration for many. However, it’s important to remember that for survivors of domestic violence, the holidays can be a particularly challenging and triggering time. The added stress, financial pressures, and family gatherings can exacerbate their trauma. As we embark on our holiday shopping journeys, it’s essential to keep survivors in mind and take steps to support them during this time. In this article, we’ll explore domestic violence, its impact on survivors, and how we can be more mindful shoppers to help those in need.

Understanding Domestic Violence:
Domestic violence is a pervasive issue that affects individuals of all genders, ages, races, and socioeconomic backgrounds. It encompasses physical, emotional, psychological, and financial abuse, and its consequences can be severe and long-lasting. Survivors often face a multitude of challenges, including fear, trauma, financial instability, and isolation.

The Impact of the Holidays on Survivors:
The holiday season can be particularly difficult for survivors of domestic violence for several reasons:

  • Increased Stress: The pressure to create a perfect holiday atmosphere, buy gifts, and engage in social activities can exacerbate survivors’ stress and anxiety.
  • Financial Strain: Survivors may struggle with limited financial resources due to economic abuse, making holiday expenses even more burdensome.
  • Isolation: Family gatherings can force survivors into uncomfortable situations where they may encounter their abusers or face questions about their relationship status.
  • Triggers: Holiday traditions, such as decorating the tree or exchanging gifts, may be associated with traumatic memories for survivors.

How to Keep Survivors in Mind While Shopping:

  • Support Local Domestic Violence Organizations:
    Consider donating to or volunteering at local domestic violence shelters or organizations. These groups provide critical support to survivors, including safe shelter, counseling, legal assistance, and resources for rebuilding their lives.
  • Choose Ethical and Inclusive Brands:
    Opt for products from brands that actively support survivors and promote gender equality. Look for companies that donate a portion of their profits to domestic violence charities or prioritize hiring survivors.
  • Shop Thoughtfully:
    Be mindful of the gifts you choose. Avoid items that could potentially be used as weapons or trigger traumatic memories. Instead, select thoughtful, non-violent gifts that promote self-care, relaxation, and healing.
  • Gift Cards:
    When in doubt, gift cards to stores or restaurants provide survivors with flexibility and the ability to choose what they need most. Gift cards can also help survivors regain a sense of control over their lives.
  • Respect Boundaries:
    If you’re aware that someone you know is a survivor, respect their boundaries when giving gifts or planning gatherings. Ask for their preferences and avoid pressuring them into uncomfortable situations.
  • Offer Emotional Support:
    Sometimes, a heartfelt note or a simple message of support can mean the world to a survivor. Let them know you care, and that you’re there to listen if they want to talk.

The holiday season should be a time of compassion, empathy, and support for all. By keeping survivors of domestic violence in mind as we shop and celebrate, we can contribute to a safer, more inclusive holiday experience for everyone. Supporting local organizations, choosing ethical brands, and respecting survivors’ boundaries are just a few ways we can make a positive impact during this festive season.

Let’s work together to create a world where survivors can heal and find hope during the holidays and beyond.

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Shining a Light on Domestic Violence

As we prepare to celebrate the holiday season with our loved ones, it’s crucial to remember that not everyone experiences this time of year with warmth and joy. For many individuals and families, the holidays can be a period of heightened stress and danger due to domestic violence. At HCDVCC, we believe it’s essential to shine a light on this issue and offer support to those in need during December and beyond.

Understanding the Holiday Challenge

While the holidays are often depicted as a time of togetherness and happiness, they can also intensify the challenges faced by survivors of domestic violence. The stress associated with financial pressures, family gatherings, and the expectation of joyful celebrations can exacerbate abusive situations. Abusers may use these factors to maintain control, making it difficult for victims to seek help or escape.

The Power of Awareness and Support

This December, let’s make a collective effort to raise awareness about domestic violence during the holiday season. Here are some ways you can help:

  • Share Information: Educate your friends and family about the signs of domestic violence and available resources. Knowledge is a powerful tool for prevention and support.
  • Be a Good Listener: If someone confides in you about their experiences, listen without judgment and offer emotional support. Encourage them to seek help when they are ready.
  • Donate: Consider donating to domestic violence shelters or our Secret Sisters Fund. Your contributions can make a significant difference in the lives of those affected.
  • Spread Awareness: Use your social media platforms and personal networks to share information about domestic violence resources and the importance of seeking help. Use hashtags like #BreakTheSilence and #DVawareness.
  • Plan Safe Celebrations: If you’re hosting gatherings, be mindful of creating a safe and inclusive environment for all attendees. This includes being aware of the dynamics of abuse and offering support discreetly if needed.

Seeking Help

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please know that help is available. Reach out to local domestic violence hotlines, shelters, or organizations like The National DV Hotline for support, guidance, and resources. Your safety is our top priority.

This December, let’s come together to shine a light on domestic violence and offer hope to those who need it. By raising awareness and providing support, we can make a meaningful difference in the lives of survivors during the holiday season and throughout the year.

If you would like more information or resources, please see our website.

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Gratitude in the Workplace

In a world often marked by its fast pace and relentless demands, it is all too easy to overlook the moments of gratitude that weave through our daily lives. Yet, in the heart of every successful team lies a deep appreciation for the people, experiences, and opportunities that have shaped their journey. As we pause to reflect on what truly matters, we’re reminded that gratitude is not just a fleeting sentiment but a powerful force that fosters unity, resilience, and a profound sense of belonging. We recently asked our team members what they are grateful for and below are their sentiments of gratitude, highlighting the diverse sources of inspiration that fuel our collective spirit and drive us to achieve remarkable results together.
  • I am honored to work with an agency that is, so survivor driven and meets the survivor where they are in their own journey and is supportive of their decisions for what is best for their life and family.
  • I am grateful for the love of my family and friends.
  • I am grateful for the wonderful people in my life- my family, friends, and coworkers (who are like family and friends). It is not often we are blessed with so many people on our journey that “get” us. I love the laughter, the hugs and support I receive daily, especially from my dog!
  • I am grateful to wake up every morning, grateful to be surrounded by loved loves here on earth and those in spirit. I’m grateful to have a place to lay my head to sleep but most importantly to occasionally feel a glimpse of GOD’s love in everyday life to remind me of his love for me.
  • I am grateful for my HCDVCC family. Anytime we connect, it’s always a good vibe.
  • I am grateful for life!
  • I am grateful for excellent health and wealth for my family and true friends!!!
  • 😊 I am so grateful for my immediate, extended and work family. The support that I receive from them all never goes unnoticed. I thank God for each and every one of them and hope and pray that they all are as grateful as I am. 😊
  • I have so many things to be grateful for this year! First and foremost, I am grateful for my health. I was down for a couple of months this year and boy was that a humbling experience. It made me very aware of how for granted I take my physical and mental health. So, this year, THAT is the main thing I am grateful for. For this amazing body and mind that has the capacity to heal and carries me everywhere I need to go. I am also grateful for all the amazing people in my life – from family, friends, colleagues, to clients. They bless me in more ways than I could ever express in words!
  • Grateful to serve in a way that aligns with my spirit and for neurofeedback which has yielded my neuro-regulation 😊.
  • Very grateful for my family & friends who love me unconditionally and give me the strength and power to dodge the curveballs life throws my way.”
  • I am grateful for God, my family, my friends (co-workers included), and my amazing job.
  • I am grateful for the beautiful blessings in my life, including my excellent health, fantastic family, supportive network of friends, and fulfilling job that empowers me to make a positive impact in the world.
  • I am grateful for the honor of working with so many dedicated and passionate people who are trying to lift up and support those experiencing trauma. It is a gift to be able to do this work.
  • I am grateful for having supportive family and friends, and also my amazing team who are so supportive and I know 100% have my back. I am grateful that my team creates this safe space to vent to each other and just support each other when our job gets hard.
  • I am grateful for my family, friends, and the opportunity to be part of change no matter how small it is over the last two decades.
  • As a mobile advocate, I am thankful for the agencies and the service providers we work with and how open and excited they are to learn more about domestic violence in order to provide the best services to their clients. I am thankful for the leadership at these organizations, that understands the need and has greeted the advocates with open arms, eager to learn more about domestic violence and how it intersects in their roles in the community. I am thankful for the service providers that work with survivors and how honest and open they have been with their own stories and experiences and the trust they have in us for their clients and themselves. I am thankful for the brave individuals that have shared with me their experiences, their pain, and their hopes for the future.
  • I am thankful for Life, Health, Family and HCDVCC. Having the ability to help and serve others while providing for my family is an amazing gift.
  • I think what I am most grateful for is being able to work in an industry that means something personally to me.
  • Things I’m grateful for: -my job and the privilege of being able to support survivors in a difficult setting. -my family and friends, who pour into me to keep me going. -my dogs for bringing me joy when I need it the most.
As we conclude our exploration of gratitude within our team, it becomes evident that this simple, yet profound emotion serves as the glue that binds us together. From the smallest acts of kindness to the grandest moments of triumph, our shared gratitude has been the catalyst for collaboration, understanding, and growth. It reminds us that while we may face challenges and uncertainties in our journey, the power of gratitude can illuminate the path ahead, helping us navigate even the most complex of endeavors. As we continue to foster a culture of appreciation, we look forward to the future with renewed optimism, knowing that the bonds forged through gratitude will remain steadfast, guiding us toward even greater achievements and shared moments of thankfulness.
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The Afro-American Police Officers League (AAPOL) Honored Houston Police Officer Adrian Rogers with the 2023 Harold L. Preston Patrol Officer of the Year Award!

The AAPOL recognizes exceptional achievement in any police endeavor including, but not limited to displays of extraordinary valor, crime prevention, investigative activity, community outreach, lifesaving, and innovative approaches to police service.  On October 28, 2023, at the AAPOL awards gala Houston Police Department’s Eastside Patrol Officer Adrian Rogers was named the recipient of the 2023 Harold L. Preston Patrol Officer of the Year Award.

In June of 2023, Officer Rogers was on routine patrol in Houston’s east end and observed a woman running and when he approached her, she turned around and he observed her crying, and in fear for her life.  Officer Rogers discovered that the woman had just been assaulted and shot at twice by her boyfriend attempted to blocked her from exiting the house when she escaped and ran for her life.  Officer Rogers was further advised that her boyfriend had a court hearing the next day for Aggravated Assault-Impeding Breath.  Officer Rogers was advised by the woman her boyfriend was in a vehicle backing out of the driveway Officer Rogers along with backup officers follow him to a convenience store.  Officers had the customers exit the convenience store and set up a perimeter when the male’s friends arrived on the scene threatening the complainant.  Officers observed the man pull out his gun and tragically died from a self-inflicted gunshot wound.     

Officer Rogers stated, “This scene was a success because of the actions of the complainant (survivor) and the actions of Eastside Station patrol officers, tactical units, and supervisors. Sergeant Garza, Officer Morales and Officer Ramirez put their lives on the line when they walked into the store with the armed suspect. Sergeant Garza displayed active leadership and poise while giving commands while the suspect had a gun in his hand and Officers’ Morales and Ramirez showed their extraordinary experience and valor by communicating to each other in real time their tactical positions. Lieutenant Wilborn was there on the front lines assisting with scene management.  Eastside evening shift Officers’ Soto, Centeno, Hernandez, and Pellerin assisted with outside perimeter while certain individuals in the crowd were yelling epithets at the survivor.  Night shift officers assisted in taking the complainant back to the original scene while there were several suspicious vehicles circling the target area and there was a real sign of an active threat.  Night shift officers like Officer Brink who stayed with the complainant until she was able to be reunited with her grandmother until 4 am in the morning. Other nightshift officers like Kichamu, Martinez and Judge Jones assisted with scene management. Commander Coleman made the Canal Street scene and managed the media. This incident like many other incidents shows Eastside patrol station is a family that is here for its officers and its community and citizens.”

Officer Rogers recently reunited with the woman, and she indicated that if not for Officer Rogers she thinks that this could have been a domestic violence murder-suicide.  When the woman stated to Officer Rogers that he is her big hero, Officer Rogers stated that she is the hero, she is the person that escaped the situation.  Officer Rogers and all the officers who made this scene should be commended for their professionalism, teamwork, and safety techniques. 

Responding to domestic violence calls for service is one of the most volatile and dangerous situations for police officers.  They lead to about 14 percent of officer deaths every year according to the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI). Domestic violence constitutes anywhere from 15 to 50 percent of total calls received by police, according to the National Institute of Justice.  Officers are also hurt in domestic violence responses.  FBI data show of all officers who were assaulted in 2021, nearly 29 percent were responding to disturbance calls.      

Everyone involved in the domestic violence intervention is a hero.  The intervention is a partnership among law enforcement, victim advocates, community members and social service providers though which police and prosecutors clearly communicate to abusers that intimate partner violence is violence, and violence won’t be tolerated in our community.     Helping survivors and their families and the relentless pursuit to end domestic violence is our community mission.                

Watch the video below!

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Kira Webster, Lieutenant at the Houston Police Department

Major Assault & Family Violence Division

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November: A Month of Gratefulness

As the calendar pages turn and we step into the crisp, autumnal embrace of November, we are reminded that this month carries a unique spirit of gratitude. With Thanksgiving just around the corner in many parts of the world, November serves as a poignant reminder of the importance of acknowledging and appreciating the blessings we have in our lives, especially our cherished loved ones.

In a world often bustling with busyness and distractions, it can be easy to overlook the simple yet profound treasures that fill our hearts. November offers us an opportunity to pause, reflect, and express our gratitude for the people who bring love, warmth, and meaning into our lives.

The Importance of Gratefulness:

Gratefulness is more than just a fleeting feeling or a seasonal sentiment; it’s a powerful practice that can enhance our overall well-being and strengthen our relationships. When we express gratitude, whether through words or actions, we not only acknowledge the goodness in our lives but also foster a deeper sense of connection with the people who matter most to us.

Reminding Others of Gratitude:

While expressing gratitude is a personal experience, November encourages us to share our appreciation openly, particularly with our loved ones. Here are some meaningful ways to remind those we care about how much they mean to us:

  • Handwritten Letters: A heartfelt letter or note, written by hand, can convey your gratitude in a personal and touching way. Share specific memories or qualities you admire in the person to make your message even more special.
  • Quality Time: Spend quality time with your loved ones. Whether it’s a leisurely walk in the park, a cozy evening at home, or a long-overdue catch-up over coffee, the gift of your time speaks volumes.
  • Acts of Kindness: Small acts of kindness can make a big difference. Cook a favorite meal, lend a helping hand, or surprise them with a thoughtful gesture that shows you care.
  • Verbal Appreciation: Sometimes, a simple “thank you” and “I love you” can brighten someone’s day and remind them of your gratitude. Be sincere and specific in your compliments.
  • Create Memories: Plan special activities or outings to create new memories together. These shared experiences can deepen your bond and provide more reasons to be thankful.
  • Gifts from the Heart: Thoughtful gifts, chosen with care and consideration for the recipient’s interests and preferences, can be a tangible expression of your appreciation.
  • Support and Empathy: Offer your support during challenging times. Let your loved ones know that you are there for them, ready to listen, empathize, and assist in any way you can.

The Ripple Effect of Gratitude:

When we openly express our gratitude to our loved ones, we not only strengthen our relationships with them but also inspire a culture of gratitude in our communities. Acts of kindness and expressions of appreciation have a ripple effect, encouraging others to reflect on their own blessings and share their gratitude as well.

In this November, let us embark on a journey of gratefulness that extends beyond a single day or month. May we remind ourselves and those around us of the immense value of our loved ones and the joy they bring into our lives. As we cultivate a spirit of gratitude, we contribute to a world that is warmer, more connected, and filled with the love and appreciation we all deserve.

If you or someone you know is in danger, call the National Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.
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Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Today marks the end of October. A day that is filled with costumes and candy, but it is also the end of a month overflowing with press conferences, trainings, galas, walks, and vigils to commemorate Domestic Violence Awareness Month. One month of recognition among the many months of causes and awareness does not mean the impact of the pandemic of domestic violence is not there the other eleven months. Those of us that work in this field understand that domestic violence is a 24/7/365 problem. While we appreciate the time, attention and funds that are given to DV during October we know that so much more is needed.

We share “our” month with another epidemic, breast cancer. While both are “women’s” issues it seems it is so much easier to support breast cancer because we never hear anyone question what someone did to get breast cancer like we constantly hear the victim blaming about DV- “Why did she stay?” “What did she do?” “I would never allow myself to be in that situation.” We see pink everywhere- on athletes, news anchors, cars, badges, and sidelines yet we rarely see purple.

The numbers keep fluctuating, but there is never a minute, much less an hour or a day that goes by, that there is not some type of domestic violence incident. We keep hearing the numbers are up, the numbers are down but does it really matter? Even one incident is too much. Everyone deserves to live in a home free from not just physical violence but emotional, reproductive, and financial abuse as well. Children deserve to have a safe place to lie down their head at night without waking up to shouts, thumps, and bumps in the night. We need to stop the victim blaming. We need to hold those who cause harm accountable. So many more resources are needed for both the victims and those who cause the harm. Affordable housing, affordable childcare, employment, and a living wage for all.

While the month of October exhausts us with all the events and remembrances just imagine the fear and exhaustion a victim lives with constantly. Let’s be there for them, let’s stop blaming them. A DV survivor is the strongest person I know because they are doing or have done everything than can to survive. So, let’s celebrate their survival and honor those we have lost. Let’s continue to do that 24/7/365 until we can eradicate this horrible pandemic.

If you or someone you know is in danger, call the National Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.
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To improve Harris County’s response to domestic violence, we lead efforts to build collaborative systems and innovative programs that increase access to services and safety.
Our Vision:
We envision a community where all persons have relationships that are safe, healthy, and free from domestic violence.
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